The List

I have been sexually imcompatible with my partner and that sucks. My needs never got met and I was bored. I like sex. No, I LOVE sex and next time I am going to be with someone who is into the same things I am. I made a list. We are going to talk about the list BEFORE we get into bed. If that discussion is weird then maybe he's not the right guy for me.


List #1. Things I like - any future lovers should be ok with most of the things on this one.

Plain old boring missionary position is still my favorite because I like being able to kiss my lover.

Oral sex. I enjoy it, but he has to be willing to 1 be clean 2. eat a diet that is low in junk food and high in fruit (makes a huge difference in taste) & 3. Kiss me afterwards. I'm not into snowballing there so won't be anything left in my mouth, but I look at it this way. If his penis is so gross that he won't touch my lips after it's been in my mouth then I probably don't want it in my mouth.

Ending regular sex with oral is pretty cool too. I personally don't have a problem with my own bodily fluids.

Naughty caresses out in public. I'm not talking anything over the top but an occasional touch where nobody else can see. I like being able to do that in a place where the guy can't really respond. Gets him interested but makes him wait.

I also enjoy waking a guy up that way. Gets him interested and there is no waiting involved.

I have very sensitive skin. The tattoo artist even told me so. :-) Still there are a few areas that are way more sensitive than others, my arms and the small of my back specifically. The right touch can send me over the top. He should be willing to take the time to learn how to touch me there.

Wearing heels during sex. I like lingerie too, but high heels are fun.

Watching porn together.

Showering together.

Anal sex. Can be fun if done right. Not an every day thing but makes a good change of pace.

Fun, light bondage. Both in control and being controlled. It is amazing to restrain someone and then block out their ability to see as well. They have to trust you 100% and you have to be worthy of that trust.

Adult toys. Make that reasonably sized toys.

List #2 - Things I am NOT OKAY with.

More than one partner. Want double penetration? Use a toy. I don't want it to be a group scene.

Scat, golden showers and anything similar.

Public sex. My kids would KILL me if I got busted.

Piercing and/or burning of anything

Animals.

Serious bdsm. I have no desire to wear a dog collar or be beaten.

Being asked for permission to be touched or if I had an orgasm. If you don't know then the answer is NO.

Taking pictures and video.

Food on genitals. Food can be fun, but in certain areas you are just begging for a yeast infection.

Nipples are not radio dials or push buttons. They should never be treated that way.

Anything that can be found when googling the terms "odd insertions" or "extreme insertions"

Infant/mommy play

Semen is not a facial cream or a shampoo and should not be used as such.

Sex on a schedule. If it's going to be every Tuesday I am going to be with someone else.

Everything else goes on the list of things I am willing to try. I think. There may be some things that belong on the second list I just have not thought of or seen on the internet yet. LOL

Fantasies

I confessed to my friend Howard that I sometimes fantasize about him. He took it pretty well. I actually suspect he wasn't all that surprised.

Of course why should he be. He's gorgeous, smart and from my one experience - really good in bed. All the makings of a good fantasy guy. He says I give him too much credit, but I really don't. Besides the Howard in my fantasies has no choice but to be good. As a matter of fact that Howard likes exactly the same things I do. Couldn't say if that were true or not with the real life Howard.

It's not all that common for me to think that way about men I actually know. Mostly because it's hard to look them in the eye when earlier in the day I was thinking about all sorts of naughty things with them. Howard gets to be one of the few exceptions because he lives miles and miles away and I don't have to run into him.

Why did I tell him? Not sure. I do like to provoke him a bit. He's sooooooooooooo serious and I like to see if I can throw him off balance from time to time. I never do, but I keep trying.

Out with the old and in with the new

The old blog at this address is no more. I don't feel the need to have what it stood for anymore, so now I am doing something different.

Change is good.

At least in my case it has been.